OK, where to begin? First off, thanks for taking the time to browse my profile...with the roughly 10,000 to 1 male-to-female ratio on AFF, things can get pretty confusing for the women, I'm sure. Hopefully, what you're about to read and see will help differentiate me from all the other penis-photo proffering men on this site. (Whoops, guess I let the cat out of the proverbial bag on that one...alas, none of the photos to the left, or in my peral albums, for that matter, depict my penis in any way, shape, or form...sorry!) I'm originally from Chicago (born/raised/educated), lived in Minneapolis, MN for a couple years, then back to Chicago for a few, then to Hartford, CT for a couple years, and am now here in glorious Cte, NC. Well, the weather's glorious so far, anyway... I'm reaably well-traveled: all over Asia as a (hated it at the time), then just about everywhere in the US, both perally and under the flag of a nationwide Fortune 100 company, and more recently to Europe (London, England, Toulouse, France, and Barcelona, Spain) for a brief visit with a good friend living over there. My passport is current, as I'm certain there will be more international leisure travel in my future; there are far too many places yet to see, and foreign women to schmooze: The rest of the EU, eastern Europe, Africa, Austrailia, New Zealand, Brazil (Carnivale!) as well as the rest of South America; the list goes on and on and on, ad nauseam. Now of course, given the choice, having a travel partner definitely beats flying alone, so that position is very much open for interested parties. ;) I have extremely varied interests/hobbies, some stereotypically male: computers/electronics, cars and auto racing (raced at amateur levels and have a tendency to speed on the road a little, but don't get into spectating it, go figure), am an avid motorcyclist (I've been riding for over 16 years), enjoy some video game/pinball action every now and again, was a closet pyro and got into my share of fights and/or trouble as a , etc. Some though, are more erudite in nature: reading (David Sedaris and Dan Savage come to mind -- why are gay men some of the scathingly wittiest and caustic authors out there?), film noir (Leon: the Professional, The Usual Suspects, Memento, Secretary, et al.) as well as more common Hollywood fare (I'm a huge sucker for con and crime movies: The Sting, Diggstown, Snatch, Confidence, Matchstick Men, etc., indie flicks (Kevin Smith!) dark comedies (like Office Space)). Musical taste is similarly eclectic; I'm currently on a big Euro/Trance kick: Armin van Buuren, 4 Strings, Motorcycle, Oceanlab, Above & Beyond, BT, Paul Oakenfold, Paul van Dyk, Chicane, Justine Suissa, et al. But yet, I'm still a fan of artists/bands like Sarah McLachlan, New Order, Eric John, Steve Miller, Esthero, Jethro Tull, hell, even some R&B and Top 40 junk (secretly). I've been labeled by some a "Jack of all Trades", but the other half of that adage is of course, "Master of none", which is certainly applicable in my case; I'm pretty good at lots of things, but not proficient enough at any one thing to dominate that field. I have a pretty good grasp of the English language (American dialect). The only accent I can really be accused of having (and I even think that's debatable) is a midwestern/Chicago (shi-CAW-go) one, I don't believe that U, 2, and R are words (or abbreviations, for that matter), and can differentiate between the proper uses for their/there/they're, two/too/to, your/you're/yore, bi/by/bye, and my peral favourite, completely apropos for AFF, discreet and discrete. This doesn't mean that I think everyone needs to know how to spell every word they use (everyone, especially me, makes typos), but for crying out loud people, take a minute to look at what you're typing! There aren't many rocket scientists among us (I'm definitely not) so you don't need to be book smart, street smart, or even have common sense for me to like you; I generally get along with all manner of people except for those who are "fake", (in the words of Holden Caulfield,) closed-minded, intolerant, prejudicial, or just plain stupid.

My Ideal Person For now, I'm looking to build a social circle in these new surroundings; some people with whom to go out and have a good time; anything else is incidental. I'm very much a believer in the theory that you can't plan your way around a lack of physical attraction and chemistry, so 38 lines here about "who my soul mate is" doesn't do anyone a lick of good. Nor can true physical attraction be based upon 5 photos "no larger than 220 pixels wide". Sure, any given person probably kinda looks something like their photo, if it just so happens to be: in-focus, not too small, not taken when they were in high school, or of their genitalia, but the flip side of that is that we all know pictures can, and do, lie...sometimes without anyone even trying. There's no replacement for sitting across a table or next to someone and feeling a tangible spark, piercing chills no matter how hot it is out, or that little flutter when you get a confirmation that they're into you, too. And that's not even inclusive of the phenomenal, generally unattainable high you hit when you're completely in sync with the person you're having sex with, and I'm not referring to love here, but pure electric chemistry. You can't identify those qualities sitting behind a keyboard sifting through profiles! You have to get out and kiss some frogs!

How can you gauge any of that by reading these profiles and looking at a few postage-stamp-sized pictures? You can't. It's impossible. But being on a system where there are like-minded people is a start, especially if it's people who are generally less inhibited than your ordinary Joe/Jane Average, and actually willing to try something a little out of the ordinary. What's my point here? Don't summarily dismiss people because of A, B, or C criteria. Chat with them, get to know them online, talk to them on the phone, get out to events and meet people. It's a proven fact that people (especially men) get stupid when they (we) get behind a keyboard, let alone if they've got a hard-on. Sure there's a lot of crazies out there, but use your common sense (unless you haven't got any, then ask someone who does,) be safe, and get out there and enjoy life.

SeekingTS tends to pigenhole and have people make a lot of choices and answer a lot of questions as to swinger this, and group sex that, and while all that is necessary and healthy and good, I don't (nor should anyone else) necessarily automatically need to sleep with every woman or half a couple I meet here, and conduct myself as such. As I said above, friends first, anything above and beyond that, great. As for who my ideal mate might be, well that's something that's a bit more difficult and ethereral to boil down to 100 words or so here, but suffice it to say that I'm banking on knowing the right girl when she comes along.

This has kind of evolved away from being a description of who/what I'm looking for here, and into a social commentary, but we'll see what kind of reaction, if any, it garners, and I'll take it from there.

Thanks for reading, and I look forward to hearing from you.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Sadomasochism, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Candle Wax, Spanking, Role Playing, Threesomes, Slave/Master

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level, A little of each

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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